Life doesn't always go as planned. When the outcome isn't what you expected, you may experience a sense of grief, anger, fear, or loss. Over the next two weeks, Silent Unity will present a question each day to help transform these thoughts into a more positive outlook. As we begin our journey, please join us in affirming: Today I choose a fresh perspective. I see possibility instead of limitation. I see hope instead of despair. I choose thoughts that build a better world.

How Can I See This Differently?

By Rev. Patricia T. Bass

How can I see this differently?

What can you do when things don’t turn out the way you’d hoped? It happens all the time. You dedicate yourself to a relationship that ends. You throw yourself into a project that fails. You vote for a candidate who is not elected.  I’ll bet you could name a dozen disappointments.

Depending upon the circumstance and just how invested you were in the outcome, it is natural to feel an army of uncomfortable emotions—fear, sadness, fear, anger, despair, and more. Noticing the feelings is important. Giving yourself permission to be present to them is vital before you can begin to move forward.

Once you are ready, there is a powerful question for you to ask yourself, “How can I see this differently?”

One of Unity’s fundamental teachings is the Law of Mind Action. It says that we are co-creating our world with God through our thoughts. As the saying goes, “Thoughts held in mind, produce after their kind.”  What kind of thoughts are you holding in this moment? Are they the kind of thoughts you want to use to co-create your world?

When you find yourself disappointed or discouraged, it might seem natural to simply look around for someone or something to blame. But when you do that, you start to feel like a victim. You are giving your power away to someone or something outside of yourself.

Instead, ask yourself, “How can I see this differently?” Listen to your inner wisdom and shift your mindset from blame to empowerment. Take inventory of your thoughts and change your thinking to match what you want to create in the world. Look at your choices and take personal responsibility for them. Positive thoughts are magnets that naturally lead to positive actions and energy. Changing your outlook really can change the outcome.

The truth is that we all have the power to control our thoughts even in the midst of huge disappointments. And when we realize that our thoughts have power, we know that we are not victims. We can choose thoughts that position us for success. The next time you find yourself disappointed, realize it is just one more opportunity to ask yourself, “How can I see this differently?”