Most people wait for a crisis, a failure, a trauma, or a diagnosis before they start thinking about changing themselves or their lives. My message is the opposite. We can learn and change in a state of pain and suffering, or we can learn and change in a state of joy and inspiration. In truth, we’re divinely wired to be the creators of our lives.
When we wake up in the morning, we usually start thinking about all our problems. Those problems are connected to memories of people and events, so the moment we turn those circuits on in our brains, we’re thinking in the past. Those memories trigger certain emotions—such as frustration, sadness, or guilt—because emotions are the chemical end-products of the past. Now our bodies are feeling in the past.
Those feelings create more of the same thoughts, which then create more of the same feelings, and we can get stuck in a perpetual loop. In time, that cycle conditions the body to become the mind, and we remain living in the past. We can affirm, I’m healthy or I’m wealthy all we want, but if our bodies have been conditioned into unworthiness or fear, that thought is never going to make it past the brainstem to our bodies.
After years of teaching transformation and change, I can assure you that nobody changes their life until they change their energy. So if you’re not waking up in the morning and being defined by a vision of the future, you’re still living in your past.
I wrote my latest book, Becoming Supernatural, after holding 19 advanced workshops around the world that teach people how to create a new future. We gathered a team of researchers who took more than 8,000 brain scans and measured heart rate variability, neurotransmitters, changes in gene regulation, changes in telomere length, the stimulation of autonomic responses in and after meditation, immune activation, and the suppression of stress hormones. We also measured the energy in the room and the energy around people’s bodies.
We’ve seen dramatic changes happen right in our workshops as people begin to overcome their limiting subconscious beliefs and programs. They’re healing their bodies, even from supposedly incurable cancers and rare genetic disorders. They’re healing from childhood wounds they didn’t even know they had. They’re also creating new jobs, new opportunities, new relationships, and even mystical experiences that transcend language. And these people aren’t mystics or scholars or monks or nuns—they’re regular people like you and me.
The first step is getting clear on what you want. Then you start asking yourself bigger questions like, What would it be like to be happy? To be healthy? To be free? To be wealthy? To be mystical? These questions turn on your brain’s creative center, the frontal lobe, which gets busy looking for answers. Since it has connections to all other parts of the brain, it taps in to neurological circuits that have stored information, either from things you’ve learned intellectually or things you’ve experienced, and it seamlessly pieces them together. When these circuits start firing in tandem, you get a new idea or a clear image in your mind of what you want. That’s called intention.
The next step is to begin to feel the elevated emotions of what it would be like to have that experience ahead of the actual event. Your body doesn’t know the difference between the emotions you feel from experiences in your life and those you create by thought alone. So your body begins to believe it’s living in that future reality, and you begin changing your state of being. You begin to install the neurological hardware in your brain by mentally rehearsing your actions to look like the experience has already occurred. Now your body stops living in the past because you have conditioned it to a new future.
That means you no longer have to wait for your new relationship to feel love, for example, or for your success to feel abundance. That’s the old model of reality that’s dependent on something changing in your outer world to take away your lack or the emptiness within you. The quantum model of reality is that the moment you start feeling wholeness and gratitude, your healing begins. If you do it right often enough, you begin to change neurologically, biologically, chemically, hormonally, genetically, and even energetically.
Finally, you have to surrender the outcome of how your intention will manifest. After all, if you can predict how it’s going to happen, that’s the known. A new experience, however, is the unknown. Creation comes in that moment when you finally let go of who you think you are so you can get beyond yourself. When you take your attention off of your identity, off your body, and off your emotions and habits, you stop thinking about the predictable future or the familiar past and you fall into the present moment. You become pure consciousness. You’re no longer operating as a physical being in a three-dimensional reality. You’ve gone through the door of the quantum, where infinite possibilities exist.
In that elegant present moment, you have to trust that something greater is going to organize the experience you’re creating in a way that’s right for you. But you can’t try or wish or hope. You can’t force or control. That’s the old model, and it doesn’t work. You have to surrender.
In doing all this, you must sustain that elevated level of energy for an extended period of time. If you’re feeling the gratitude connected to your future outcome, you’re less likely to try to predict when or how it’s going to happen because you feel like it’s already happened. Then all of a sudden, synchronicities and opportunities start to appear. Your intention shows up in a way you never could have imagined, because you manifested it from the unknown, not the known. It finds you, and you realize you’re more of a creator of life than a victim of life.
I have to warn you that the hardest part about change is not making the same choices you made the day before. Change feels uncomfortable because you can no longer predict what is likely to happen. Since your body has been emotionally conditioned to the past, it will always want to cling to the familiar. The moment you step into that unknown, your body starts saying, “Start tomorrow. This is not a good day. You’re too much like your mother. It’s your ex-’s fault. You’ll never change.”
If you respond to those thoughts as if they’re true, those same thoughts always lead to the same choices. The same choices always lead to the same behaviors. The same behaviors create the same redundant experiences, and the same experiences produce the same emotions. When that happens, you’ll think, This feels right, but the truth is it feels familiar.
The challenge is to become comfortable in that place of uncertainty because that is the perfect place in which to create. Once you understand that, you start to crave the unknown—and that’s when your adventure begins.