How to Control Your Life—Part 3

By Mary-Alice and Richard Jafolla

Excerpted from The Quest

Reaction = Seed

Fortunately, once things do come into our lives, we have absolute control over our reactions to them. How important that we understand this. We constantly are creating our world through how we deal with our world. Each action or reaction is another thought. Each action or reaction is the seed of a future circumstance.

Nevertheless, don't feel you have to invest a lot of time and energy into figuring out what specific thoughts and feelings caused specific circumstances in your life. If you are lost and stop at a gas station to ask directions, you don't have to know how you got to the gas station. All you have to know is how to get from where you are to where you want to go.

If there are things in your life which need a new direction, know that you are creating your tomorrow with the thoughts and emotions of today and proceed from the present.

The Winning Combination

The second point we want to make is a major one. You've surely noticed that, along with thoughts and ideas, emotions and feelings have been regarded as generators of mind action.

Your mind (or soul) is made up of your thoughts and feelings, and feelings are strong dictators. In fact, whenever you pit a strong feeling against a thought, the feeling will win 100 percent of the time. (People running out of a burning building have not stopped to think. They are acting strictly out of an emotion, in this case fear.) We are driven by our emotions. We won 't even get up off a chair and cross the room unless our emotions prompt us. If we "just don't feel like it," we won't do it.

But attach an emotion to the thought of crossing the room and off we will go. It could be the emotion of fear that our child will touch an electric outlet, or the emotion of love that urges us to get up and hug a friend. The thought of getting off the chair and crossing the room is not enough. It must be attached to an emotion.

Yet emotions are really thoughts, a complex mix of sensory perceptions and judgments, that have formed strong patterns. In a sense, they are thoughts given the power of hormones, thoughts that have reached a critical mass and been transmuted to a level that prompts us into action. Unlike thoughts, emotions take place entirely in the unconscious.

With that in mind, you can appreciate the potential of a thought-emotion combination. Often our thoughts say one thing and our feelings another. "Yes, I know prayer can help, but it's really no use. I'll never be healed." Thought going in one direction; emotion going the opposite way.

When a thought and a feeling are synchronized and both are going in the same direction, however, you are wielding the most powerful tool in your possession.

It leads inexorably toward life-transforming action. "Joe saved his life with prayer, and I know I can do it too." That is the kind of empowerment Jesus had in mind when He declared it as "done for you as you have believed."

The human mind, with its thoughts and feelings, is the mightiest and most wondrous creation in all creation. When linked with God-Mind, your human mind has no limits in its ability to alter the world, your personal world.

As we journey further, we will come upon discoveries which will shed more light on the process of changing one's thoughts and feelings. For now, as we begin this adventure, bring with you the conviction that "as he thinketh in his heart, so is he." Also add this to your belongings: Thoughts held in mind produce after their kind.

Here it is in a nutshell: Like attracts like. It always has and it always will. It is an unbreakable universal law. It is the law of mind action.


The Quest In every human heart there exists the hope of connecting with "something more." Tucked away deep within us, a part of us has always sought—yearned for—that connection.

The Quest opens the way for that connection. It presents eternal truths in a contemporary and very personal way. Whether you are just beginning your own individual quest or desire a deeper spiritual understanding, this guidebook and the accompanying activity book, Adventures on the Quest, will lead you with warmth and practicality through the pilgrimage of your soul.