Some of us seek identity in honors or degrees or awards. Some of us seek identity through others—in associating with the "right" people or in "marrying well.” Some seek identity in money or power or fame. Their identity becomes linked to some other person or thing. "When I achieve that, then I'll have made it," they say. To Marlon Brando's character, a washed-up boxer in On the Waterfront, it was winning a certain fight. Those who have seen this classic movie will never forget his melancholy line delivered with such pathos: "I could have been somebody. I could have been a contender!" His identity was in being a contender. Not having made it, he was now a "nobody."
The paradox is that when we finally do get what we've been pushing for—when we get to the top of the mountain we've been scrambling up—we inevitably see a range of even higher mountains ahead. For every peak scaled, a thousand more loom seductively on the horizon.
Frankly, there is no changing our identity to the "right" one, because we've already been given the right identity when we were conceived by Universal Mind. Our original and only identity is the loftiest possible: we are one-of-a-kind creations of God. Is being powerful or rich or famous, is being a "contender," really better than being a child of God? Is it better than being an heir to all the attributes of our Creator-the riches of the kingdom? Uh-uh!
Once the impact of this revelation finds its way into our souls, the "identity crisis" is over and we are enthusiastic to be ... ta da! ... ourselves.