We are creatures of connection by nature. In fact, research by neuroscientist Dr. Candace Pert suggests that our ability to form the right connections could actually lengthen our life span. Our ability to grow and evolve is directly proportionate to the quality of our connections to our inner world, our outer environment, and to other people. In other words, our connections speed up our personal evolutionary process. And whether you know it or not, on a very basic level, there’s a part of you that’s confident in the ability to form the right relationships, at the right time—those necessary for your next stage of evolution.
Right now, while you are reading this article, the ultimate connection party is going on as new relationships are being formed within your brain; signals are crossing synapses and strengthening new pathways. The more open you are to learning, individuation, and growth, the stronger those synapses become, making it possible for you to have access to your next level of conscious. You are the by-product of millions of years of evolutionary connections that were formed by an Infinite Intelligence, and now that same force is rushing through your veins. Feel it, embrace it, and yield to it. Life itself is trying to live through you!
I think that much of our problem lies in our interpretation of the world around us, and our tendency to compare what we see out there to what we think we have going on within. For instance, when I first met my wife, Jessi, I thought that Spirit was playing a joke on me because we shared the same name. I was in my senior year, and I assumed that college was not the place for me to meet anyone because I was on my way out the door. But that’s when my life changed. The funny thing about the Divine is that sometimes it gracefully moves through us on such a subconscious level that we don’t even realize that a force beyond our conscious awareness is at work.
As soon as I contemplated the possibility of forming a connection with the embodiment of the sacred feminine, I immediately started seeing everything that prevented me from just saying hello. I was able to pull myself out of my stupor and step into my moment. And just as God would have it, we were able to share a soul connection that made me realize life partnerships are as important to my path as my vocation and faith. As a result, I carry her essence with me and within me every day, even when she’s not around.
There is always a greater idea that’s trying to emerge within our attempts to reach out to one another. Sometimes, we don’t need a huge lightning bolt from the cosmos to propel us into our next phase of life. Just get up and do it. God has given you what you need, and there is always a response to the question your heart is asking. Eros, which is the evolutionary impulse of the Divine, propels us to form relationships because it’s woven into the fundamental pattern of life that we should connect.
Connections result in more than just an emotional exchange of information. When we connect with one another, despite the resistance we may feel, we pass along spiritual and genetic traits to our descendants and encode information for overcoming obstacles in their DNA. Through our connections, we are helping to create a future generation of powerful, faith-filled, and natural born light-bearers.
Forming relationships is how we were able to make the evolutionary leap from single-celled creatures to multicellular organisms in the first place. You can’t help desiring friends; you can’t help wanting to have a companion, and you can’t help not wanting to be alone. You don’t have to be—and God does not want you to be. Pray for Spirit’s guidance, move your feet in its direction, and watch your life open up beyond your wildest dreams. Mine did and yours will too.